Closing a Chapter

finally… the long awaited moment.

college years had been great. even my last year, my 5th year, in college. i have learned many valuable lessons. from how to avoid making stupid decisions to learning about self-care. some mistakes were made, but i know i have learned from them as well. 

looking back at freshman year, i know have come far. it is nice to know that i have grown, after five years of edumacation… and re-edumacation. it had opened my eyes to appreciate the person that i am, the people around me, and things that are given to me. these lessons are shaping me to be who i am going to be in the near future, and preparing me for the things to come.

i am looking forward to more lessons and adventures.

The Final Jab

just when i thought i was hfs-issue free for …forever….

the “evil one” has brought upon us, terry-lander residents, another kind of crisis.  there is practically no food or snacks… and no bottled/canned coffee at the so-called “2-convenient.”  a resident shopper at the store was very discontent with the selections… or lack there of…. and i quote,

“there are no more doubleshots??? …..2-convenient is so 2-NOT-convenient…”

a store running out of coffee and snacks, especially during finals week, is NOT a good sign.  the cries of “what am i going to eat??” has been left unanswered, as some students were desparately searching for food that would meet their dietary needs.

however, i personally had been rather calm about this…despite the shortage of cereal choices (only a few boxes of rice krispies left), most of the fridges are almost empty, and the racks are sweeped clean.  i have learned to survived and snagged an extra package of soymilk to put in my fridge and a box of the rice krispies in case i need a meal or two.  hopefully this predicament is just happenning in the south campus area.  otherwise i can forsee the desparate cry from the residents for their food account to be used for the next few days (since money cannot be refunded). 

or perhaps… this is a strategy for hfs to secretly gain more money from the students….

hmmmm.

It’s Been Fun…

tonight was my agency’s fundraising auction and dinner.  it was my last event before completely leaving the agency.  the event was fun.  everyone was dressed up nicely and worked together.  we have gotten many compliments for being so organized, which was nice.  a lot of us had put a lot of hard work into this, and i am glad that it was a sucess. 

however at the end, it was bittersweet goodbye for me.  it would be my last time to see most of my co-workers for a while. i like these people and i miss them. so i took the opportunity to take a few pictures with the ones that i worked with.  unfortunately some had already left for the night. i wish i had brought my camera with me as i was helping out.  i thought it would be a hassle if i did, so i didn’t. i didn’t want people to take it either. (not that they would… since people paid big money just to get in. but you’d never know)

but i am glad that i was able to have somewhat of a “proper” goodbye with one co-worker before i left though. i actually knew him for the two years i volunteered/interned at the agency. he was one of the first people that I met, and we’ve been friends. he did not realize i was leaving. ironic huh? due to our schedule and timing, i never got a chance to tell him that i was parting from the agency soon. so it was nice to let him know what i’m doing and say goodbye. 

i miss these people.

In Denial

this sunday would be the last day to order graduation stuff…. cap and gown, tickets and all that jazz. i still haven’t made a move on it. it is not entirely because i’m busy…OR procrastinating. i can make an order now, as i am typing this entry.  but i am not… at least not yet. 

now i can actually feel the graduation days are coming closer, a part of me does not want it to happen. i am in denial.  in a few weeks, a chunk of my life will be taken away. everything familiar will be stripped away within the next few months…. i have to practically start from scratch. i am grateful for this opportunity where i get to go out and be on my own for a little bit. but it has been an emotional battle that i want to constantly push aside. how am i going to survive when i am far away from my support system?

i feel like i am being taken back to the first day i stepped into the UW campus for my freshman orientation. standing at the edge of johnson loop with my stuff and holding my sleeping bag. all of a sudden i felt soooo small.  buildings were 10 times taller than me.  i felt like i was being sent to a little town, not a school. i was dumbfounded.

now i am at the same place again…

I Know It’s A Little Bit Early, But…

this coming weekend i will be giving a campus tour to my middle school girls in the after-school program.  i don’t know where i am going to take them yet.  they for sure wanted to see my dorm.  i think that’s what they are most excited about.  during the few hours we are going to be touring the campus, we would be walking around the u-district annual fair.  it was planned on that day, so then they would be able to have something else other than the campus to look at.

i’m rather excited about this.  i believe that everyone should have the right to choose to live a decent life, and these days often entails going to college.  even tho there seems to be a lot of asians on campus compares to other minority groups, i am hoping this trip will give my girls some exposure to college.  just so that they would know about it and be encouraged to go in their future, despite their home circumstances.  this is not about statistics.  i was fortunate enough to be in a family who supports my education, and i just want my girls to be informed about college as well.   so later in their lives they can have a choice to go.

walking by faith

in a few months i will most likely be moving myself down to san jose for my graduate education in social work.  it was not an easy decision.  the past few weeks, i have just beginning to get a little taste of what it means to be truly walking by faith, trusting and waiting on God.

earlier this month (first week of april) i have recieved an acceptance letter from hawai’i.  but i was not exactly….. too thrilled about going there for school.  they required me to let them know my decision by may 1st.  i was fine with it, no big deal.  comes the 18th… no response.  by then i was telling God, “God… i don’t think i can ‘go by faith’ and make the decision to go to hawai’i without hearing anything from the california schools.”

so i called on the 21st, and all the schools were like, “you are not going to know until the first / second week of may….”  uhhh!! great.  but i can still wait, God has given me a lot of patience.  cause i know He was testing me.  so i waited without complains.  overtime, i was beginning to think that may be God really wanted me to go to hawai’i.  the people around me were pretty excited to hear that i got accepted over there.  there was a period of time when i was pretty set to go.  then on friday afternoon (25th) ….. i got a voice message from san jose, saying that they accepted me.

great.  now what? where am i called to go?? i really want to go where God wants me to go.  but i really couldn’t decide.  cause there was a period of time when i thought i was called to go to hawai’i. at the same time, i didn’t want to make a mistake on hearing God wrong.  they called me friday afternoon.  but i have to make a decision basically by thursday after that.  essentially i got 3 days to decide.  through those 3 days, i tried my hardest to hear from God.  3 days i haven’t heard anything from Him.  i was like paul (or saul) who God blinded his sight for 3 days with scales.  God just left me with tony’s message the night before.  i had never chewed on what i got in a message. for. so. long.  tony mentioned psalm 127:1 and self-identity… doing God’s will through who God had created us to be.  only God’s decisions will stand… everything else would fall apart.  it took me a while to figure out what He meant by that in my life, and with this decision of my life. 

by that time i was frustrated with God through and through for not telling me where i should go.  God doesn’t always give answers, He gives directions… and He gives them at His timing, as i’ve been told.  as i was ranting and raving at God, He was like, “you need to change your attitude.” i was not the one waiting on God, He was waiting for me.  so i needed to change my attitude…. waiting for His timing.  even if it meant there was only one day left.  long story short, on the third day (the night of the 29th), a friend helped me to make a pro/con list with the two schools.  at first it was pretty even, it was basically my thoughts on paper that i could stare at some more.  logically it would make more sense to go there.  but after extracting it and looking at it closer… san jose began to align more with my life-long passion.

it finally became clear to me where i should go.  after i’ve offically made my decision in my heart… i called my mom tonight.  and she said ….. “your cousin, andrew, lives in san jose.”  0__o

acappella

friends make fun of me for listening to acappella songs…….

they just don’t understand the coolness of them.  call me a music nerd.  but i like chords collaborating and harmonizing together.  it’s music to my ears.  =p  perhaps it’s part of being chorally trained. …? i don’t know.  i just love the chords, the harmonies and suspensions.  they are just so cool!!

with that in mind…
i am completely in love with the katinas.  since the beginning of my christian faith, they have been my inspiration.  i have been listening to them recently.  this song has always been one of my favorites…

My Cultural DNA

in the past i have often wonder why are hong kong people so concentrating in striving forward, and never want to think about the past, or stopped to appreciate our culture.  wait… we don’t have one.

here in america hong kong people are automatically being lumped with the chinese.  most people did not even think twice about how the history of hong kong has affected the “chinese” people culturally, who were living there.  at times i thought about if we should even be categorized the same.  or perhaps it is just the two generations, who was born and raised within british rule, that “got the shaft.”  i considered the effects were significant enough, and it is worth mentioning.  at least i am able to clearly see how it had affected my parents and me.

due to the british colonialism, hong kong people are considered different from the mainland chinese.  we are definitely not considered british neither.  so people like me (and my parents), who was raised within the british rule, are really stuck in between the cultural gap.  we were never taught to be proud of our roots or passing down our stories to the next generation.  our history and ancentries are lost.  culture was never cultivated.  life was about survival and striving to be the best. 

since the colonialism, hk people had been removed from their culture.  our culture and traditions were killed.  chasing the latest fad alone had become our culture.  hk ladies wearing tommy hilfiger, burberry, coach.  …or should i say, Tommy hilfaker, furberry, and foach? how about throwing north fake in the mix as well? young people joined in with the pop culture and play mah jong.  there is nothing wrong with these things in itself.  however, we have somehow taken those things in place of our entire culture.  what happened to the traditional music, song and dance? stories that people talk about? the history of hong kong pre-colonialism had been wiped out!

because of this, it had created lasting effects on the hk people (as it does with every other country the europeans took over).  the younger generation suffers from the lost of culture.  thus, we become more vulnerable to assimilation to the western world, as we do not understand the significance of the culture and traditions of Hong Kong.  my parents and my generation had become the “victim” of that paradigm.

i have been wrestling with that thought of being the first generation in america, yet not knowing or having my own culture.  it is such a shame.  what difference would it make me, than the [ignorant and privileged-bound] white people? i believe, in order to truly appreciate other cultures, one have to learn to appreciate their own first.  at the same time, i am struggling to find / hold on to the little culture i have — my language.

recently i have read something a friend wrote a while back.  it really encouraged me to spur on this search.  he said (and i am paraphrasing here), “are we thinking enough about what are we going to tell our children to tell their children about where we came from? or are we just going to sit and wait for something, like an earthquake, to happen to shake things up? when an earthquake happens sometimes can reveal things that we don’t want to see, or know about.  when that happens… what are you going to do?”

i would like to be able to past down the history, traditions and the truth, to those who come after me.  in order to do that, it would really have to know my history and possibly challenge somebody.  so i might actually be the earthquake… and shake things up.  =)

Got Favor from the G

a lot of times God speaks to me through music.  that is one of the reasons why i really like going to gospel choir… is that there’s always at least a song that completely speaks to me.  well, this quarter there is two actually.  i can relate to those words.

He Kept Me, Kurt Carr
i almost let go
i felt like i just couldn’t take life anymo’
my problems had me bound
depression weigh me down
but God held me close
so i wouldn’t let go
God’s mercy kept me
so i wouldn’t let go

i almost gave up
i was right at the edge of a breakthrough
but couldn’t see it
the devil really had me
but Jesus came and grab me
and he held me close
so i wouldn’t let go
God’s mercy kept me
so i wouldn’t let go

so i’m here today
because God kept me
i’m alive today
only because of His grace
oh He kept me
God kept me
He kept me
so i wouldn’t let go

Still Standing, Israel & New Breed
You gave me courage to believe
that all your goodness I will see
and if it had not been for you
standing on my side where would I be

If not for your goodness
if not for your grace
I don’t know where I would be today
if not for your kindness
I never could say
I’m still standing
if not for your mercy
if not for your love
I most likely would have given up
if not for your favor
I never could say
I’m still standing
but by the grace of God

To you I lift my offering
and set my heart on higher things
for if it had not been for you
standing on my side where would I be

I’m still standing I’m standing I’m still standing but by the grace of God

when the music fades…

i went to praise night last night, and God once again challenged my love for Him.  since i am so musically driven, a lot of times i ended up being hyped by the music instead of the love that God has for me.  it is so easy to sing praise songs and just going through the motions of the words and emotions that comes along with the music. 

it is like that in gospel choir too.  i am not required to believe the words that i am singing, as long as i sing the words, sing the right notes, then i am okay.  because i am in a class, as a class we never take the time to think about the words that we are singing.  so when melodies and chords that touch my heartstrings, or people like junior who comes along and sings a solo, it is so easy to have my head go straight into the clouds.  but really, what is the true meaning of the words that i am singing? i don’t want empty words falling to the ground.  so God challenged me last night….

do you love me? … even without the music.
do you love me? … even all else fades
but the words of love and adoration for Me
laying bare in front of you gently awaits
would you still speak it?
would you still speak the words like you mean it?
like you mean it more than you love that guy
or all the other things that you buy
would you still speak praises to me
when music don’t exist,
people are not gathering like this
would you still take that risk?
of being completely vulnerable,
entirely faithful,
loving me 
and trusting me
trusting that i will give you my love
10 times 10 even more love
than what you have given me
in return of your faithfulness to me
so i can hold you
slow dance with you
and love you unduly
and unconditionally

remember… you are My Beloved.

He asked me to speak the words of the songs or just not sing and think about the lyrics.  what is being sung? what is His character here?  through that i had to learn to worship Him in a different way, really thing about the things that i am saying, concentrate on Him and not the music.

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